Sometimes, You (and I) are Wrong. Cut the "Hater" Excuse.
I've had a lot of time this week with my 3 year old while her brother is camping with Mema and enjoying Vacation Bible School. She has been easy-going, a delight to wake up to, sweet and more, but she has also been testing her limits and pushing an attitude when it comes to doing things she doesn't want to do. She IS a threenager. I don't know about you, but entertaining a pretty easy-going three year old and trying to spend quality time with them, one-on-one is pretty hard! We have done so many things: chalk, coloring, ribbon dancing (thank you, YouTube ribbon dancers), using the streamers to make each other a mummy, then using those same streamers to make headbands, flip-flops, bracelets and gloves, we've painted fingernails, done make-up and hair, attempted to find a slime recipe that we had ingredients for, made a trip to Wal-Mart, and so. much. more.
This morning she wanted to color, so I decided to do some lettering. Of course, seeing that I was doing some lettering, she wanted to join in.
"Mom! I made an 'N'!" "Momma! I made a 'W'!" "Mom, an 'L'!"
Actually, sister, that's a backwards 7. That's not an "L".
And so the argument began. She insisted she had "gone down and over" when in fact, she was "going up and over". Debates with toddlers, no matter how calm, feel like a freakin' eternity, so I simply stated, "Azlynn, you're wrong." *** I'm aware it is developmentally expected for her to get these mixed up...it still doesn't change the fact that it is incorrect and I want her to learn it the correct way. Carry on***
Imagine her face when I blatantly let her know that she was, indeed, incorrect. Do you want to know what she said to me? "Momma, you're not being nice telling me that I was wrong." and she continued to pout.
I can recall several times growing up where being told I was "wrong" wasn't my favorite thing in the world (sorry, Mom.) And I think that as a society, anyone who disagrees with us is automatically labeled a "hater". So in essence, everyone is a hater. Everyone is "just jealous". And everyone needs to mind their own business, until you need them, and if they don't help you when you need them, they're just selfish and don't care about you or anyone else. <insert eye roll here>
OH boy, we are raising our children in an era that anytime someone disagrees with them, corrects them or tries to let them know of their folly, they are "just jealous".
FYI, this is a cop-out. This is an not-so-clever way to not take any responsibility, to shift the blame onto someone else, and to give ourselves a false confidence. I mean, why would we listen to constructive criticism when we can live in a fairy-tale land, where we are never wrong and can just shrug it off and shift all the responsibility onto someone else?
Granted, there ARE people who don't have your best interest in mind and they truly are "hating" on you. I'm not talking about those folks.
I'm just so, so, so, so, so, so "over" seeing absolutely everyone being labeled a hater. Let's end this madness. Love your loved ones enough to tell them "You are wrong" and if you're on the receiving end, self-evaluate and see if they just might be right.